Alright so here’s the thing. Always sucked at making the first move. Felt scary, ya know? Especially over chat where you can’t see their face. But I liked this guy for weeks, kept overthinking every “hey” or meme I sent. Finally decided, screw it, let’s try those “quick tips” everybody talks about.
My Actual Step-by-Step Mess (I Mean Process)
First, I stared at his chat window for like 20 minutes. Seriously. My finger just hovered. Felt like my heart was gonna jump out my chest. Kept thinking “what if he laughs?” or worse, just leaves me on read? The “quick tips” said “Just Do It!” Yeah, easier said.
Decided to start super simple and casual. Didn’t wanna throw a big “I LOVE YOU” bomb right away. That felt insane for chat. The tips said “Use humor,” so I picked a stupid, relatable meme. Yep, one with a sweating dude looking stressed saying “Trying to act cool when I actually wanna ask you out.” Clicked send fast before I could chicken out. Immediate regret. Why a sweating dude?! Looked so lame.
Panic stared at the “sent” icon. Seriously, time stopped. Then… three dots appeared! He replied! Just a “Lmao same tbh.” Was that… positive? Relief flooded me, but it was just a reaction, not really moving forward.
Okay, time to actually slip in a tiny compliment. The tips said “Be genuine but light.” Deep breath. Typed: “Honestly tho, you always make me laugh.” Pressed enter. Instant doubt. Too much? Too cheesy? Why is my hand shaking?
More agonizing dot-watching. Felt like hours. He replied: “Haha glad I’m not just annoying you then.” Okay, a little encouraging? But still banter.
Knew I had to hint at it now or never. The tips talked about “planting a seed.” So, sweating bullets, I went for: “Nah, not annoying at all. Honestly makes me look forward to your messages.” Sent it. Immediately chucked my phone on the bed like it was on fire. Couldn’t look.
Phones vibrates. Stomach drops. His reply: “Well that’s good to know 😊. Same here honestly… makes my day a bit brighter.” A SMILEY FACE?! AND HE SAID “SAME HERE”?!
Heart went into overdrive. This was it. The “quick tips” said be confident, but honestly, I was terrified. Typed super fast, fingers stumbling: “Good! Maybe… we could talk outside memes sometime? Like grabbing coffee? Or just… less meme-ing?” Closed my eyes and hit send. The wait felt eternal.
His reply popped up: “Haha less meme-ing? That’s a big ask 😉 But seriously, yeah, coffee sounds great. When are you free?” I literally gasped. IT WORKED? OR WAS HE JUST BEING POLITE? It was a YES!
Made actual plans right there. Kept it simple, next Saturday. He even used another wink emoji. Still nervous, obviously, but SO much better than endless wondering. The “chat proposal” mission: kinda sorta accomplished!
So Did The Tips Really Work?
Honestly? They gave me a basic roadmap when I was totally lost. Like:
- Start small and casual (meme opener saved my awkward butt)
- Drop little compliments (makes it feel less out of the blue)
- Hint at interest (“look forward to your messages”)
- Finally, ask for the simple next step (coffee, low stakes)
But here’s the real crap: It wasn’t “easy.” It was nerve-wracking as hell. The tips don’t magically erase fear. You still gotta push past the panic, hit that send button, and survive the agony of waiting. My method was messy, filled with typos (fixed them quick!), and constant second-guessing. Felt nothing like those “Ace it easily!” headlines.
The key I found? Making it feel natural in OUR conversation. Forced generic pickup lines would’ve crashed and burned. Using my own awkwardness kinda worked in the end? Dunno. Maybe I just got lucky with a nice guy.
Would I try it again? Yeah, probably. But “easy”? Nah. More like “Survivable with sweaty palms and a plan.” Got a date at least! Now to figure out how to actually talk in person… wish me luck.
